How To Overcome Self Doubt & Imposter Syndrome
For some reason, I’ve never liked the term Imposter Syndrome.
And while I don’t like the phrase, I absolutely understand the experience.
According to the Oxford Dictionary, Imposter Syndrome is the persistent inability to believe that one's success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one's own efforts or skills.
Or in my case the belief that I just keep getting lucky.
A belief that has not only discounted my actual skills and ability, but has also convinced me that I should be doing things in my business differently because the success I have had was a fluke or pure luck.
If you feel this way or have similar thoughts - know that it’s your own self doubt speaking not reality.
MY IMPOSTER SYNDROME SYMPTOMS
I started my coaching business in January of 2017, before that I had a profitable consulting business helping startups with their marketing.
The first week of my coaching business was AMAZING.
I signed two clients in one week and generated over $5,000 in revenue.
I kept telling myself that I was lucky…
But looking back I know the truth.
I know that I put in the work to land my first few clients.
But because I kept thinking it was luck, I abandoned all of the actions that helped me find my first few clients and spend tons of time, energy, and money trying to learn how one successfully brings on clients.
That’s right - I already found the answer - but couldn’t believe it was true.
While I did a lot of work on “overcoming” Imposter Syndrome, I’d be lying if I said that it never reared its head again.
My most recent flare up showed up after I landed a book deal.
That’s write - I’m writing a book.
And while I’m beyond excited that Hay House is publishing my book - I initially also felt a huge amount of pressure and self doubt.
Can I really write a book that good?
What if people hate it?
Do I have anything different to say than what’s already been said?
Who would listen to me?
And the real kicker hear is I didn’t even realize these thoughts were impacting me.
But luckily my best friend did.
She called me out.
Told me that I’ve been hiding and she didn’t know why.
And the truth of it is that I was.
I was afraid my book would be a failure and so I didn’t want anyone to know about it.
Which is the way self fulfilling proficiency occur.
Don’t tell anyone your writing a book and then when it comes out, no one will buy it because no one will know that it even exists.
Luckily, my bff called me out on this in the very early stages of writing my book.
The truth is, self doubt can creep up even when you think you’ve banished it. And you can have self doubt in one area of your life and be completely confident in another.
3 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE SUFFERING FROM IMPOSTER SYNDROME
1. You Attribute Your Success To Something Other Than Your Actions
“I was just lucky”.
If you find yourself unable to see how YOU are the reason for your success or the amazing role you’ve played in your success, you may be suffering from Imposter Syndrome.
2. You Feel As Though You Need To Be The BEST!
Perfectionism is real. And after taking an Enneagram Test I learned that my personality type believes I’ll be loved the more successful I am. Which explains why I put so much pressure on myself to do well when my parents never did.
All that aside, the pressure, need, or compulsion to be the best at everything could be a symptom of Imposter Syndrome.
3. Your Projects Are Always In A State Of Revision.
You may or may not want a trophy or an award. But you definitely want what you create to be perfect. As a result, nothing has been finished.
You’ve started many projects leaving them half completed because you keep tinkering.
HOW TO OVERCOME YOUR SELF DOUBT
1. Raise Your Self Awareness
The first step is understanding where your self doubt and feeling of being an imposter are coming from.
With increased awareness, you can make better decisions.
Get curious about yourself.
Talk with someone.
Take a personality test.
Start to understand what’s really causing your Imposter Syndrome.
2. Write A New Truth
It’s not that your fears and thoughts are not real. They exist.
You are experiencing them. But it doesn’t mean that they are the truth.
Take time to write out your new truth.
What you choose to believe instead of the fears and doubts that exist.
If you’ve been telling yourself your success comes from luck - take time to write out what’s really behind your success.
3. Connect With Your New Truth Everyday
Read your new truth every day.
You’ve likely been living with self doubt for years if not decades.
It will take time to develop new beliefs.
Take time to connect with your new beliefs every day.
Build up the mental muscle to think empowering thoughts vs the thoughts that are stopping you from being your best self.
4. When In Doubt - Create A Pattern Interrupt
If you’re in a space where your dis-empowering thoughts are stronger than your empowering ones, do something that disrupts your thoughts.
My personal favorite, listening to Sia.
I find it hard to pay attention to inner thoughts about how I suck when I’m blasting “The Greatest” or “Unstoppable”.
And remember - I think you’re MAGIC.
So take the time to put systems in place so that you confidently believe the same!
How do you deal with imposter syndrome? Comment Below!